Today I was driving a friend of mine to a job interview in Sausalito. The weather was gorgeous and warm—the sky clear. As we descended upon the town, with the houses on the hill overlooking the bright blue water, she said, “It’s as if we were in Portofino.”

I agreed with her, and it was truly a moment to appreciate the aesthetic beauty of living in San Francisco. But I couldn’t sit oohing and ahhing for very long. I didn’t want us to be thinking about being in Italy, I wanted her to be thinking about being in New York. Quite the opposite, right? Wrong.

She has been dreaming of living in New York her whole life. Literally. She has a recurring dream where she is in a big city, surrounded by skyscrapers, people, and lights, and she has never felt more at home, or more alive. She told me this the last time I saw her, and I know that I won’t be able to let it alone.

Nothing moves me more than meeting people with unchased dreams.

I remember back to when I was a sophomore in college, and I said to my boyfriend at the time, ” What about your dreams, don’t you have any goals?” And he thought for a moment, stared back blankly at me, and then finally said no. I immediately wondered what the hell I was doing with him, or more why the hell I was calling him my boyfriend. Especially when he didn’t put out enough.

The point is, is that not everyone is a dreamer. Not everyone can hear a calling–that little voice inside them that whispers a direction, instills a curiosity, sheds light on a love. For those that do have this kind of guide, it is even that much harder to disregard whatever else is going on in life, whatever else everyone is telling you to do, and listen to it.

So for those of us who do hear it, and for those of us who are getting messages all the time whether in the shape of dreams, voices, or just an overall feeling in your gut—it is that much more important to listen, trust, have faith, and make the most of it. Dreams are the vehicles for gifts.

My friend is an artist. She could be a fashion designer, interior designer, jeweler, painter…commercial artist, seamstress, you name it. She makes the most lovely pieces of clothing, and then turns and upholsters a sofa. She can do anything with her hands. But instead of doing whatever she can to get to New York where she knows that she will feel the most at home she’s ever been in her life, instead of giving that a chance, she puts it on the two year plan. I could pull my hair out.

Once I took an unhappy man, a co-worker of a good friend of mine, to Baja. He had never had fish tacos. We drove the two hours down from San Diego, and the two hours back. During that time he told me how much he didn’t like where he was working, and a few months later when I talked to my good friend again, I heard that the man had left his job, moved and fallen in love. It’s a good recipe for those who are stuck…me, Baja, fish tacos and two hours to set you straight.

There’s nothing I like more than showing people how attainable their dreams really are. Well…except for fish tacos. And a good bank robbing scene in a movie. And bodysurfing on the Sunshine Coast in Australia. Speaking of dreams…I need to get back to my list of things that are going to help me get to mine.

4 comments

  1. My dream is to raise a happy family, be a great wife, have my own room in a house, and write. Write for fun, write for publication, write restaurant reviews, write travel pieces, write humor stories, write books. And to travel, play, eat out, and go to movies with said family and friends.

    I’d also like to learn more languages. If I could do all of these things in my lifetime, my dream would be fulfilled.

  2. Funny I stumbled onto this today… I recently quit my job, packed up and moved out to Oregon and am trying to get a job with Nike. I am a tennis nut and want to make my passion into my career. Problem is, its not working out quite like I’d expected and now I wonder if its all worth it. Right now its a rough patch, but man when you’re a dreamer, life isn’t always dreamy.
    Thanks for writing your article, I have more faith now and will keep on trying to make my dreams a reality.

  3. Holly, I’m glad you got something out of my article. And chances are good that I’ll be moving to Portland sometime next year. Keep my email and look me up. It would be nice to get coffee or a pint or anything. We can talk about life, careers, or anything. Just have some fun.

    Hang in there with the job front. If you keep trying something will come of it. If not with Nike, than with someone else that might lead you to a new place you didn’t know you wanted.

    A long time a go I had the dream of working with Outside Magazine. Then I met Travelers’ Tales. I few years into working with them I got the opportunity to go to Santa Fe and talk to some people at Outside. Funny thing was that they had a publicity position open (which is what I was schooled in). But guess what? As I was there and falling in love with their office, I also realized that I had outgrown the dream. I was so happy being a part of Travelers’ Tales that I didn’t want to be anywhere else.

    I’m not saying that will happen to you. I’m just saying that dreams take on interesting journeys of themselves sometimes. Keep dreaming.

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